When it comes to talent-based activities, I’m much better at watching sports than playing them, and making music has always been quickly bypassed by listening to it. That said, I’m a believer in honing talent over being born with it, and playing sports and music have fallen to the wayside of visual arts in my life. Oh, and also, I like to write. I like it a lot. I just don’t always know what to write about.
Spoiler alert: That’s about to change.
The other day when I was participating in my usual habit of
spending the first hour(s) of my waking life in bed looking at social media… blurry Insta pics from friends who were still at afters (and cats from those who
hadn’t experienced anything yet in their days), random Facebook posts, Mass
Appeal for new jams, and twitter for some news, I came across an article in The
Times, “To Fall In Love With Anyone Do This.” I took the bait and clicked.
A widely read, light piece of writing in the Fashion and Style section, this article told the story of two college kids, the author being one, who answered a series of 36 questions over a first date at a bar, stared into each others’ eyes for 4 minutes while standing (romantically) on a bridge, and BOOM they were happily married. Well that's convenient. Where did they get those questions?
In the late 1990’s when I was working at The Crystal Underground (and very possibly looking awesome in a green visor at Pizza Hut), being hippied-out, and making my start in art school, the psychologist Arthur Aron was conducting a study on quick intimacy. Squirreled away in a room on the campus of CUNY, the doctor was busy testing his list of questions to see if certain ideas, if shared amongst pairs of strangers, could spark instant intimacy. Although one pair of his subjects ended up walking the aisle, his intentions were more than hoodoo/love potion punch. He wanted to see if answering certain questions upon immediate meeting could make people really know each other. The author of “TFILWADT” sure thought it worked.
After all this, I was curious. What were the questions?
An easy Google search lead me to spending more time in my bed and thinking about how I would answer some of these questions myself. Surprised with some of my own answers, I thought… and here’s where we bring it all back around… this is what I can write about.
While some questions involve a partner, and some may be a little TMI for the internet, a solid 25-30 questions fit the bill of, I am comfortable enough to write about. So, here we go folks. I’m
challenging myself (scratch
that. It’s a weak statement don’t you know?) going to answer one question each
week. I mean, who knows? If you read all about it, sometime in late summer,
maybe you’ll even fall in love.
Question #1: Given the choice of anyone in the world, who would I invite to dinner? Find out Thursday.